I say this knowing it's not an easy thing to do. Especially if you had one mindset and all of the sudden the rug gets taken from under you. Or having one mindset and have experiences or logic itself challenge it.

[She...would know about all of that.]

In the end of the day, at least you have a couple goals to work to. Even if you aim high and come out short for a while, at least there was always an effort.