[It was easy to just tell him to fuck off and do his own thing. But she thought on it some more. Well, she owed it to him to look into it as hard as possible. Giving him all realistic angles before helping him with a decision. If he WAS asking for help on a decision on this. She couldn't claim she really wanted that kind of power over some 20-something year old men.]

So...let's look at either decision.

Sure, if you stay together, you could help the family more directly. But that could also impede your growth. Make you unhappy. Usually with family that sticks that close, even if one extension is unhappy, then somehow they all will be. You can just be right there as it happens, and you always know where they are most of the time.

If you separate, you could focus more on you and not on them. Maybe there's a lot of unknowns with it, but then you could always at least account for yourself. Though you maybe could offer a hand if anyone needs it, because you have more of a leg to stand on. It depends how much you yourself feel like you can or want to offer at that point.

Limiting yourself to two decisions isn't so black and white. I think either way could make you all fall apart or be closer. It all just depends on what you do with a decision like that.

So...what would make you flip flop your decision before?